People You Must Avoid in College

Hey friends. College is a difficult journey, don’t make it even more difficult by hanging out with people you shouldn’t be hanging out with. Trust me, the friendship breakups get very messy, even messier than relationship breakups. Better avoid them by avoiding befriending the wrong people in the first place. 

Here is the list of Red-Flags that you must stay away from.

The Cheapo

If someone asks you to pay for the two chips you took from their packet of Lays, it’s a clear sign of pettiness. Obviously everybody’s on a budget. Nobody is asking you to pay for someone else. But when you split the bills and how you do it are very important. 

People who are extremely selfish about their money are just ten times more selfish about their efforts, about their time and obviously about their help. You don’t want someone who makes you feel indebted for every little thing they do for you.

But, at the same time you do not want someone who splurges money and then makes you feel bad about what you can afford. This person is essentially a shallow-mind cheapo too. Someone who cannot get past the money differences cannot get past any other differences. 

Chatur: The One Who Cries Wolf

This is the person who keeps saying that they haven’t started studying, they will cry the night before the exam and then they will end up scoring more than you.

Avoid these people at all costs. Trust me, they have already studied from 5 sources. 

Learn to identify the difference between people who actually need help and the ones who just want attention.

The Resource Gatekeeper

Some people have all the PDFs, notes, and resources but refuse to share them, especially during exams. They won’t share anything, and will give silly excuses like ‘Oh, I got this from my group, ‘they’ have asked me not to share.’

Look for friends who are willing to help each other out. Collaboration is key to surviving MBBS.

The Gossipmonger

People who badmouth other people: all day, every day, every time. Their need for drama will create a negative environment.

Everybody gossips a little. Avoid those who are always doing it. It won’t take long for you to be the topic.

The Better-Than-Thou

Some people don’t shut up about themselves. They will cut other people talking and will turn the conversation to make it about themselves.

Avoid those who are always trying to one-up everyone. 

All Talk But No Show

Reliability is crucial in medical school. You don’t want someone who promises something but does not deliver. 

The key is to be honest, don’t promise if you cannot come through. Ensure that your circle includes people who keep their word.

The Spark For Fire

Some people thrive on stress and chaos. They will stress you out for nothing, ‘Oh no, I did not complete the Homework. They will fail me bro’ *Meanwhile you do not know that Lecture took place, and they know it.

‘Oh you did not bring the stethoscope, you will not be allowed for the University Practical’ *Meanwhile they are done with the practical and refuse to lend you theirs.

They might constantly talk about how behind they are or how difficult everything is, increasing your anxiety levels.

The Free-Loader

There will be people who won’t work in clubs and committees but will attempt to take full credit. They’ll rely on you for doing their work, using your notes, and will even ask for help during exams. But won’t ever give back.

Unmotivated 

Skipping classes. Procrastination. Lack of commitment for anything. Failing but do not care. Do not participate in any extracurriculars either. Have literally NOTHING going on.

You want to surround yourself with people who are passionate and hardworking. Or soon, jealousy will start brewing.

The Critic

People who always point out flaws and criticize others without constructive feedback. They obviously cannot take any feedback too. You do not want someone who points out everything that’s wrong with you, without trying to help you fix it. There’s a way to give feedback.

The ‘COOL’ Kid

‘Try this na, let’s do that, let’s do this totally unsafe and irrational thing’ People who keep forcing you when you have clearly said no. You want people who respect your boundaries. 

You will find people forcing alcohol down your throats. Just remember that you have the right to say ‘No’. Get into alcohol only by choice, not due to pressure. 

Conclusion

Remember these Red-Flags. A bell should go off in your head every time you come across any of these. Remember, you will be friends with these people for life. Choose wisely. Stay alone for a while, but DO NOT HANG OUT WITH THE WRONG PEOPLE.

We are very influenced by the people we live with. The right company can help you thrive, while the wrong one can pull you down. All the best choosing friends.